Relationships

And not necessarily of the romantic kind.  Actually, I’m not talking about the romantic kind at all.  I mean just the normal ones.  Friends.  Co Workers. Family. Etc.  And the relationship you have with yourself. Your passions. Your hobbies.  Whatever it may be.  The thing is, all relationships take time.  If you don’t put time into them, things don’t really work out.  In fact, you really get out what you put in.

Which is kind of crazy because I think before, they just..happened.  You’d co-habitate a space with people and automatically relationships would develop without even really trying.  Or giving it thought. And I think that tends to keep happening. Unless you travel a ridiculous amount, and you’re never really in one place for extended periods of time. Then most things just kind of pause.  And don’t go anywhere.  Which, when you think about it, is really weird.  Probably the closest thing we have to pausing time.  Unfortunately the problem is that even if the relationship is paused, both parties continue to grow and change and it’s just more surprising when you meet again.  Not bad or good. Just different.

It’s crazy to think I’ve been in India for over 3 years now. Which means that I’ve known some people for over 3 years.  That sounds like such a long amount of time, when really, it’s less about the time as a unit of measure and more about…I don’t even know what it’s about to be honest.

I guess all I know is that you have to make an effort.  Especially with things/people that don’t have years and years of accumulated..stuff.  I don’t have a better word for stuff.  Years and years of..history? Yeah, history is a good word.  History can be both good and bad.  But that’s what it is.  Moving to a phase in life where the people that you are surrounded by don’t know you for years and years and years.  Maybe only 3. Tops.  And ultimately, if putting work into the relationship is not something you really want to be doing, or look forward to, then maybe you should question that relationship entirely.

Crazy.