It struck me one day, when I was talking with one of my friends about my current job (which I absolutely love). He commented that I was lucky to have found the thing that makes me happy. And I realized that…yes, this is what makes me happy today, but that doesn’t mean it would make me happy tomorrow. I mean, hopefully what made you happy when you were 2 years old is not the same thing that makes you happy today (because that would mean that eating play dough would be ranking high on my priority list).
If you think about it, every time you grow as a person, the things that make you happy will probably change. So essentially, the more you grow, the more the things that make you happy may change. Now don’t get me wrong, you’ll probably still love doing certain things- but it just may not bring you as much joy as it used to. Or maybe it still does. I don’t know. Point is, you just have to keep checking in. It sounds really weird, but happiness actually takes work.
I realized this as I was thinking today (because finally, on vacation, you get to do that sort of thing). I finally put words to that feeling that I’ve had before: that there is something missing in my life, or something that isn’t making me completely happy. Maybe it’s because I don’t get to do all the things that I get to do in the US, but whatever it is, there is a gap.
Luckily, I have found something to fill that gap. And that thing is feminism. I’ve been reading all about it, and I can’t get enough of it. The two books that I’m reading now, How to Be a Woman, and Full Frontal Feminism, are incredible. My life makes so much more sense now, viewing it through this lens. I want to learn more, and read more about it. I identify as a feminist. Maybe other people already knew this and I’m the last one to join the wagon, but whatever it is, it feels great.
Anyway, I think the main point is that life keeps you on your toes, and your feelings change. It’s probably important to take some time to see if the things that made you happy yesterday still make you happy today. And if not, find out why and work on fixing it. Maybe it’s a small thing, like finding a new hobby. Or maybe it’s a big thing, like changing your job. But whatever it is, you should just…do it.
Because once you put in the work and figure it out, life gets so much better.